Just wounding how many Peaple here have kids and how many that don't plan on having them. We're (Tonya and me) wont be having kids sence we both can't stand to be around them for more then a day or two. Don't get me wrong we don't mind kids just as long as we can give the back at the end of the day.
Well, no kids for me as of yet. I still plan on finding the right girl, marrying her, and then some chillen's.(particular order)
I have two kids and don't worry I can't stand them for more then a day or two also. ...2 boys, wife and I are still debating on a 3rd but the thought of 3 boys is scary.
Pretty similar story here. Both in our 30's, been together forever, don't plan on getting married unless we have kids, and don't plan on having kids anytime soon (if ever). Most of our friends have kids, so we get all of the benefits of being around them and none of the ****ty diapers, constant colds, lack of sleep, budgeting for clothes, etc... I'm sure we'd adjust if it came down to it, but right now kids wouldn't fit our lifestyle, so we've chosen not to have any. The weird thing I've noticed is our friends with kids seem to harbor a lot of resentment and get pretty judgmental of us and other friends/couples with no kids, but it's never the other way around. Not sure if our friends with kids are just assholes or if that's a common thing lol
lol yeah, I will pass, for some reason I would like a daughter and so would my wife. We are a younger family so alot of our freinds do not have kids, I don't think I act different towards them, but we never hang out with them AND our kids, I feel like im burdening the non kid people. I do have to chuckle when my wife is out of town and my non- kid friends ask me if I have to "babysit" while she is gone. lol
One, and one on the way. They cause much stress, but they also enrich my life, I wouldnt have it any other way.
They are just assholes. Or they are jealous of the fact that you are in your 30's and aren't pissing away your spare cash every month on diapers, baby food and clothes, and that your car doesn't have room for a car seat. Either way, I don't feel resentment from my friends that have kids for our choices. And if I did, I likely stopped talking to or caring about what they think loooong ago.
2 daughters here. Aged 5 and 7...they drive me nuts, and annoy the hell out of me daily! But I wouldn't give them up for the world In fact the wife has been talking about trying for a third...I just laugh, then say no
To be blunt, it's on me too. But I don't agree with the institution of marriage. Again, I don't care if others get married, it just doesn't make sense to me. I mean, if we were to get married tomorrow, other than filing for taxes, our relationship and our lives would be 100% the same. I'm leaning towards this and stress. The ones that I do understand are the ones that are just too busy, their budget is stretched too thin, or they can't find a sitter so they never make it out and when they do they're cranky. But those are also the same friends that I could not see for 2 years and we would still click.
I love kids, especially good chubby cute and nice cuddly kids. I have lots of kids, some Subaru, Mistu and Nissan. Some you could say are past their prime, but they still act just like 4 yr olds. Anyways it helps that I keep a carrot and stick close by. If I didn't have to work so much I'd have even more kids like Ferrari and porsche, maybe even an SUV. Kids are great just as long as they weren't raised by stupid people.
I wanted to be a kid for a few more years before having a kid... whoops, one night in November 2011 my mind was made up for me. Kids were always something I thought I wanted, but as I got closer to 30 I wasn't so sure. My wife wanted kids without a doubt but I was starting to have my doubts. Beaches, snowboard trips and fast cars sounded like a good way to live with Debbie for the rest of my life... well as life does many times, my choice was made for me. I am so damn happy it did! It is weird... everyone said that it changes, but could never really explain it in a way I understood. Now I understand the change... but also can't explain it. I am totally stoked to have a little one. She can make me smile and it doesn't matter if I am crabby, half awake, hating the world or just having a bad day. She just has this power that makes everything else in the world not matter. In short I love her and I am very happy that she is in my life.
We discussed and (poorly) planned for our son for a couple years. I've always wanted a kid and it was important that the Mrs. and I lined up on that issue before getting hitched. I certainly have my days where I wish we retained the resources and ability to spontaneously do whatever. Anyone who doesn't is either lying or likely suffering from some manner of acute mental deficiency. I think being intentionally childless shares some ground with Atheism. People have an extremely hard time with the idea that it's possible to realize oneself and one's happiness without having a kid. As if kids are required for personal growth and a sense of direction for one's life. A kid definitely gives you an easy, tangible answer to what lives at the top of your priority list, but that doesn't mean said list simply ceases to exist in the absence of a dependent. Perspectives shift A LOT. Some of perceived resentment probably is straight jealousy.
I cant say it was planned, but I did have both of my boys at a younger age and I am glad I did. We have some friends who want to wait till everything is 100% perfect and they are wiser. I look at it this way, I will turn 40 years old 2 months before my youngest (if we don't have anymore) turns 18. That to me seems more like fun versus being 50 and having a 15 year old in the house.
Currently have 3 kids. Planned all 3 kids to be 4 years apart so they all get their own special time. We are expecting our 4th but couldn't wait another 4 years to have another one so the 4th has a 2yr gap. You hate and love them at the same time. You can't wait to have free time and when you do have free time, all you do is think about how much you miss them. Yes they put a dent in your wallet and it takes a lot of patients but I couldn't imagine my life without them.
Two of them *see the pet thread. http://mnsubaru.com/threads/post-up-some-pics-of-your-pets.12600/page-12#post-687027 Honestly, I wish I did but won't lose any sleep over it. I also love NOT having kids.
Got my first due in 2 months. Can't wait to have a son! Currently in the hospital right now because my wife slipped on the ice pretty hard yesterday, and they are monitoring things to make sure the placenta wasn't damaged. Which could cause an early labor. So far so good. Keeping my fingers crossed my little man doesn't enter our world this soon.
Never had the desire to have children. Have wondered what is wrong with me since most of the world is hell bent on procreating. I'm not so sure the world is such a wonderful place that I want to create and submit another human to it. That said, I do have a 24 year old step-daughter, but she got out from under our thumbs as fast as she could when she turned 18 and I doubt she will be back (to live with us again). I missed a lot of the downside (diapers, interrupted sleep, etc) since her mother and I got married when she was 11.
Hope everyone stays healthy. That has to be stressful. Wishing the best for both of them. Remember, for the first month or two... Sleep when they sleep.
Thanks everyone! We just got home after 20 hours at the hospital. Things seem ok now. But we have to keep a close eye on things. She was having mild contractions, but they have subsided for the most part. She just has to relax for a few days. It is scary for sure, I don't want nothing to happen to my baby boy or my wife.
no kids, don't really like kids, and definitely do NOT want any right now I'm starting to warm up to my niece a little bit, but that's because she's finally almost 3 and knows what 'no' means. or cares. Plus I can give her to mommy if she starts to smell bad. or makes too much noise. or generally irritates me. but, like I said, she's getting better, and honestly being 'uncuh bett' is kinda fun.
Ever see Chad Daniel's (MN comedian) bit about kids vs aids? Aids, you wake up and pop a few pills and go about your day. Kids? They wake you up and drive you nuts all day! Haha it's seriously a funny bit and will cure your need for kids in your life! Ok, all joking aside, I'm not against kids whatsoever...but they are just something that I'm not ready for in my lift right now. There is lots of fun to be had as a young single person in their mid-20's. Enjoy your freedom while you have it! Marriage and kids can come later in life. Although my backup retirement plan is still to marry a tall chick, field a litter of tall kids, and live off of their (hopefully) successful basketball careers. I'm not banking on it though
This is totally true. I became involved with my daughter when she was 2 and I was 22. Being young, naive, and inexperienced I used to think that even as a single man, I had absolutely no time to get anything done. Then a kid and a woman got involved. Now I realized that you can live without sleep to make up for the lack of time. I love my family to death, but I'm totally with you on missing the single days of freedom. It feels a lot like when you move away from home and miss the innocence of childhood. I'm not so sure about the connection to atheism, but all of these concepts seem to be getting more common these days. I myself do not believe in marriage or the necessity of pro-creation to define myself and my dedication to my relationships. My girlfriend and I have been together for 6+ years now with our daughter (who was 2 when I entered the picture). I do not need to marry her to prove my dedication nor do I believe that she will simply leave me for not making the arrangements. The American obsession with the Leave it to Beaver family unit is long since dead, but society seems unwilling to let it go. Given the abyssmal rates of divorce and terrible family structures kids are growing up in today, I pride myself on the fact that we can have a normal family life complete with doting grandparents and uncles without inserting a now meaningless piece of paper into the equation. I hope that my daughter can grow up with an open mind about life and love and be happy with what she has instead of needing validation at all costs. Before she came along, however, I was dedicated to not having kids in my life. Raising one has been a pleasant surprise that has no doubt taken years off my life, but it was not something I absolutely needed to bring purpose to myself. I actually worry about the people that are obsessed with breeding for the sake of doing so or just because their friends are knocked up and they think that kids are the only reason to live. It's weird and doesn't make any logic to me.
