My gf of 3 years and I just broke up Don't mean to be one of those sob stories, but it just sucks. There's a few awkward things that I don't really know what to do about though! Over the 3 years, I've become really, really good friends with a lot of her family (she has 2 brothers my age, and cousins my age too). I've never had a break up where there's people "in the middle". What happens...do they pick a side? On the bright side, my friend just called me and let me know her and I just won tickets to another Wild game! We each threw in $50 for a raffle at her work, so I donated and got Wild tickets!
lucky u were just boy/girl friend.....if u were married and broke up....that's even more worst..... note: there are more fishes on the sea.....
Ya, I'm not too devastated by it...things could always be worse. It's going to be weird being single now though!
hey...keep ur head up....sometimes changes is a good thing....starting the whole new beginning....trust me it will be hard for weeks but it comes around u.... good luck btw
It does hurt a bit, but it doesnt take much to get over them, expecially if you saw it coming. at least you werent married
As in dead and floating on the sea? Sick man, I didn't know you were into that. Sorry to hear, Mark. For the most part, I've stayed friends with my ex's, so the mutual friends/family thing has been a non-issue. It's good of you to think about her brothers and cousins, but I think that's the least of your worries right now. I would suggest focusing on moving on. Once things have quieted down, if there were no hard feelings during the break-up, yet her brothers and cousins feel awkward about staying in touch with you, then to me, that speaks more to their character than anything else. Asking them for console during this time would be pretty awkward, but if they offer, and you're alright with it, I don't see the harm in that. I guess it really comes down to whether you guys are trying to sever all ties or not. Hope things work out for the best!
nah, we aren't severing all ties. We will be friends...we are too alike to not be friends. It'll all work out. We were "complicated" for a little while which basically meant a little buffering period for us both to get ready for it. And hell no I'm not giving those Wild tickets up! They are great seats!
yeah..this really sucks man i hear ya.... my girlfriend of 2 years and i broke up after some messed up **** happen i don't exactly know what happen to this day...she never gave me a straight reason..but now shes in chicago at college with a new boyfriend we tried the "friends" thing but she kept getting pissed off every time she heard i had a date or hung out with a girl so i finally said screw off i had enough of it but we were engaged...so eh....but just realize you got a club full of great people and friends and you got yourself to think about
The tickets aren't with my ex-gf (that's weird to say...or type I guess)...they are with my friend, who happens to be a girl
i'm single... I think i'm tipping 2 years now on that train. I had a gf of a few years... similar indecent. best thing to do is simply to pull out of the situation. if the family and friends keeps in contact with you thats one thing.. but if you push back on them it gets weird pretty quick. just keep telling yourself its for the best... believe everything will end up ok and it will. it sucks... but it does get better. I keep telling myself sooner or later someone will come along, and sooner or later they will. Be you... do what you do... and doctor pepper. side note : it's too early in the day to break up... have her get back to you after 2PM and have her contemplate this decision again.
oh god i forgot the family part...her mom kept wanting me to come sleep over at their house im like hell no! she since stopped talking to me after i told her daughter off but what skarecrow said..its for the best... smile look up and see the future it's a bright one
I <3 Dr. Pepper And I don't actually think the family friends thing will be a big deal. I go up North with her Bros and have gone out with them sans the gf...so the friendships weren't really based on our relationship.
dr. pepper... he helps.. just make sure he brings his friend dr mcgillicutty. I hear he works wonders
good luck brother, it can be awkward if you choose to remain friends, it will be fine. if it is a mutual breakup you are lucky! I'm 28 years old and I've been through memerable break ups and a divorce, it seems that I was the one who did most of the breaking. the best ones are the ones you have to try to remember, the ones that were so mutual that is was more like you lost intrest in eachother. A break-up can be like selling your first home, at first you loved that home, but you found it had a small kitchen, the insulation was poor and it only had a one stall garage. you sell that home and find won that is a better match for what you looking for in a house. in this analogy I'd sugest you rent for a while.... lolz
Break up? whats that...I've been with the same woman since....gulp, 1981. Sorry to hear, especially if you have mutual friends and you really get along with her family, makes it even worse.
this work friend sounds like the perfect rebound, hahah j/k sorry to hear that just let the people in the middle decide on their own, its not like you are breking up with them. I'm still friends with my sisters ex, big deal.
evidently not what you are thinking! but in that sense a one stall garage would be what I'd want.:roll:
I'm sorry Mark. To be honest though, the two times I came over for beer pong, she wasn't really nice, not just to me, but your friends too. I hope you feel better, and as for the friends thing, I think you should give it some time apart before you guys start hanging out as "friends" again. Because chances are you guys will get back together for all the wrong reasons.
We were in a weird time then too hahaha (and she was never really a "happy" drunk) At least I have friends to fall back on!
Don't think I meant to dog on her just to make you feel better either, she wasn't nice those two times, but it doens't mean she's a b*tch to clarify. Girls will be girls, we have our moments. 3 years is a lot to try and let go, but all that matters is the good times you guys had within those three years. You guys broke up for a reason, probably because there was more bad than good so it's hard to fight to be together when things are so much more negative than positive. You will have plenty more memories to share with someone new, and most likely have too let those go too, but when you look back you will know that it's all part of being in a relationship. Sooner or later you will be with someone where you guys have more of a good time together than bad.
According to my ex, I didn't have a family. I do, but he had no interest in getting to know them. Actually, he had no interest in anything but himself. When I left him, it was hard to tell myself that I need to not pay attention to his family - but I realized that they were the ones who created such a monster out of him, and it got easier. Now, I don't even miss them anymore. I'd say - wait a bit before contacting her family - if they want to talk, they will still come to you.
I don't get along with my own family very well....and they're all in the cities. My ex, had 6 uncles (all very much like myself....kinda nuts :run: ), and an aunt. many cousins, etc. etc. and all in Duluth. They were more a family to me than my own, by miles. That was, without a doubt, the hardest part of the breakup. with all the crap that happened between me and Sarah, I was over that pretty quick, but miss her family a lot. That said, I think I've spoken to her family only a few times in the 6+ months since the breakup. it sucks. if you find a good way to keep in touch with the family without making the rest of it harder, do tell. I thought about trying to make it work between Sarah and I, just for the family stuff, but that's rather pathetic. I don't want to turn into my parents (big reason I don't get along with them, they're pretty much only together for the benefits).
oops... hah ah sorry just got home, tired, and kids running around... besides I was imitating ej20 conversing with t-bone!!
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**reads first post..skips all the rest** GET DRUNK!! WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO **drinks another beer** :cheers2:
