I will let you all know cause after joining this club I feel you guys are part of me and my family. This last Sunday I got into a really big fight with my mom and said some things out of anger that I can't take back now. I feel like **** and can't get out of my mind. I really don't know what to do... all I can really do right now is give my mom and myself sometime away from each other. I know it different for some of us... my being asian birth and growing up in america is hard. I have my asian and american side that make it really hard to speak with her sometimes. And with your guys being my other family I need some help on what to do. I got my mom this coach bag for christmas that she really wanted... and we all know those bags are not cheap. I used my hard earned money to buy this for her... and she told me after the fight she doesn't want it and told me to return it cause she doesn't want it now cause of this fight. I really don't know what to do
Jeff its the holidays, take some time and clear your thoughts and maybe start by appoligizing with a card to your Mom. Just talk it over and just take it easy. The fact that your parents may not be your birth parents they are still yours, and it doesn't matter what they are they are still gonna love you the same! Besides your not missing much, my asian parents treat me just the same as your, except that I dont think yours would take a paddle to my rear! Hey keep the communication open I'm sure you guys will working it out, running away will not resolve anything. Good luck! Dr. Phil
A card and some flowers won't hurt. Apologize and hope everything falls back into place. My older brother and his wife has screamed at each other for 4 years. Time is what brings them back together.
Jeff, Try not to spend a lot of time from this situation. The first step is to take the blame, show her your sorrow. How about taking her out to dinner or something and talk things over. When everything is fine, take out that coach bag and handed to her like it was Christmas all over again. It may not be as easy because some parents are really stubborn and time may be needed. Just make sure both views of the situation can be understood although they may not agree.
I'm sure all of us had our disagreement with our parents in many occasion in our life time. I would start with Apologizing and build your communication from there. As a Parent myself, no matter what path your kids choose... you will love them unconditionally. Take sometimes for yourself and open up that communication line again with your mom. Talk about it and clear things up... even I have a lot to learn and I'm not one to give advise, so take it as it is. When everyone is Hot, things will burn but let it shimmer down a bit... It'll cool off and go back to normal again.
I had the same situation jeff, after I move out the house because of the college and such. As we are, asian we always getting a fight with parents or guardians, but always remember, even though it's get rough and tough they always love you and there'll be side by side. Most parents including me they judging by not knowing anything whats going on in this world, by argument their opinion they believe of their own to be right on everything. All I can say in my experience, i know it's pain in the azz to hear them screamin and spittin but try not to counter it, let it go until it's over, cause you have your own opinion to be right. Just taken care of yourself and don't leave your parents behind, soon then later you will need them and thank them. Bottom line, what's now is now, but you have to think of tomorrow. Peace bro
Thanks everyone My mom called me at work today and wants me to go home after work so we can talk..... I really hope everything goes ok... I just have to remind myself to keep my cool with her... for the members that have asian parents you know what I'm talking about. Thanks again guys.........
