soo lately i have been noticing i get the whole friend card...hmm..no fun! and today this girl katie, one i like throws one at me today and i kinda threw it back in her face saying i dont wanna be just your friend..any advice at all?! :roll:
I have some advice for you. And you may not like it. If it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be. If she likes you only as a friend, and you can't deal with it, move on. Plenty of fish in the sea.
Nice guys have to wait longer to find a good girlfriend. Sad, but true. There ARE good women out there. You just have to deal with the bad ones for a long time beforehand. The same goes for girls. I've had my fair share of horrible boyfriends - and I'm not trying to be snobby here, but I'm probably one of the "better" girlfriends out there. But also, girls can be very shady .. and if she's "throwing it out there" - how do you know she won't just leave you in a few weeks for another person?
ooo i know...but the only reason why she wants to be is because she got out of a relationship like 2-3 weeks ago..
Alright, I'll be blunt. If you just want a quick lay, go for it. If you care about her a lot and want to be with her as a long-term thing, wait for her to get over it. If her last relationship was anything like MY last relationship, she may have been over it a long time ago (I stayed with my ex for a year trying to "work things out" before I just gave up) and then you're in the clear. But definetly try to talk to her about how you feel, you can usually judge her reaction right away. Don't do it online.
ooo and by the way...my ex got all me all picky cause she used to be a model, and yea, so looks pay a roll on me..and same with them being intelligent..haha
yea, and there is different types of good looking girls.. 1. if they are hot...one night stands.. 2. if they are cute..than it a relationship kind of girl..haha but thats just me...and this girl is cute, smart, and has a great personality and yea..
Ya, I totally suck at both, that's why I'm a single 33 yr old! As one of my ex's said..."All you got going for you is you're good looks and a nice car, and neither one of them is going to last very long." All I have to offer, if you have to try and make them want to be with you, look elsewhere.
true true...so is there a way i can still be her "friend" and at the same time have her know i still dont wanna be...if that makes ANY sense at all...haha cause than maybe she can start the whole trust thing and everything...
Don't be the rebound guy. It will never work in the long run. Unless your looking for the short term score.
yea i always get this from my friends that have given me the friend cars... "kyle you are the perfect guy, your really cute, nice, caring and have that funny personality! and you know how to talk to girls" b and yet...here i am a grand ol single 20 year old has been single for a good year haha
You have a few years before you should really start caring about being single. If she isn't into you that way, then she isn't into you that way.
Play hard to get, make her come to you.... If she really likes you she will call and come crawling back to your, its the only way to truely find out, but good luck and sorry man!! ( i know how it feels)!
This is like going in for a job interview... "You've got all the skills and experience we're looking for! You'd be perfect for the job! ...but we're not going to hire you. Instead, we're going to hire this other applicant that will be chronically late and drink too much. But, do you mind if we keep your number so we can call you and complain about him?" I hate to tell you this, but if you can't play your cards right and change her mind (relatively soon), you will never be able to switch from the "friend ladder" to the "relationship ladder".
Sounds like you're interested enough in her to possibly smother her in the near future. I say, play it cool, don't give her 'the cold shoulder', but don't call her every other day either. If she wants to talk to you or see you...she will call. Sounds like she has interest if you were over there at those hours. But, if you try to get her to have feelings for you while she's getting over someone else...you will most likely fail. She has to let go of the past before moving forward with you(if that's what she wants). Just my .02...hope it helps.
haha by far the best way to put it...cause its true! haha. but yea i know thats what i am doin..but she went to sleep on me tonight, so im going to try it next monday when she gets back from philly when we do our dinner and a movie and hard to get is always hard, cause yea i suck at it haha.
The thing about this situation is.... You need to tell her straight up how you feel. Be prepared for the harsh truth (if thats the case). Like Ozone said, the earlier the better (easier). Then IF she says no to the whole dating thing, you have to respect that and not be the creepy guy trying to get with her. Keep in mind after you have this talk, the whole friend thing may be very awkward. my $.02
ohh man sounds like me when i was in high school. Then i found megan (current girlfriend of 5 years) it took me a whole year of trying to get her to like me and all that time she was kinda giving me the time of day buty not really. I tell everyone if you really think she is worth it keep at it. but like everyone said DON'T be the creepy guy!
Some chicks arent up front with there feelings. talk to her. Like the crab in the little mermaid says.... Kiss De Gurl!!!
haha thanks ksal..and hey how come you never bring her around downtown?! haha. so did she say she just wanted to be your friend too at the start of it all?? and yea, def not the creepy guy...never have been never will..haha
all of the adive here is good but you have to just be a flirt with her. dont push a relationship on a girl and dont be too "i think your cute i think your cute i think your cute" with her. those kinds of things are said too often by nice guys. even though you might mean it doesnt mean she wont get the feeling like its thrown around too much. just be as close to her as you can but not overdoing the idea that you REALLY want a relationship with her. just keep up what you are doing that makes you have her attenion in the first place. dont talk too much about relationship things because if there is a strong connection, things will workout anyways. and if they go south then it wasnt ment to be in the first place. dont waste your time on someone who is just going to walk out quickly. ive learned that letting things go naturaly is the best way to get into a good relationship. she knows that you like her. so just be cool about it and the chance that you get her will be more likely. keep your cool. thats VERY important. i know because ive dont things wrong and ive done things right.
Maybe. Like I said, I had given up on my ex a year before I moved out and found someone else. It was a stagnant relationship. But to the outside it appeared as if nothing was wrong. We never talked, and that made it so much easier to hide the fact that he irritated the piss outta me every single effing day. I was ready to find another person the day I moved out of there - and I did And I'm 100000000X happier than I've ever been in a relationship
2 months..the one before that a year and the one before that 4 years haha i found all that out friday night..haha
How much lead time was there between relationships? She might be monkey-barring her men (that's not a good thing, as kinky as it might sound).
Megan is either: A) Non existant B) Mildly Retarded and is incapable of using a clock C) Is a stuffed animal with a built in clock that is malfunctioning. I don't believe you are dating anyone. We've never seen this girl. Pics or it didn't happen.
Yo Subiedriver4444 Beware of the "$h1t tests", these are thrown out to see what your "made of". The friend card usually spells disaster. Careful not to fall into the role of the rebound, most times this can only lead to a 'dead end'. I am in no way wise when it comes to this subject, but these things are usually spot-on. If she truly likes you, she will let you know somehow. G/L dude!
hey don't worry about it. i'm twenty one and stuff never goes right for me thats why i got into cars. but whatever happens don't freak out IF she says no, it sounds good at the time but you just lose friends in the process because girls talk to each other.
yeah im terrible with women 21 and never had a gf! told a friend of 5 years how i felt about her and that went umm... terribly bad. so now she wont really talk to me, but to make myself feel better i went and got my exhaust and ap! im not going to give you advice because it would be wrong and if i did, do the opposite. but really best of luck to you with your ventures and just remember other other fish, other fish
Ahh, women advice on a car forum. Classic. That's the first thing to stop doing, instead go on more dates.
