It was a very sad day for me today. I expected everything to go well for a day like today: with it being my 24th birthday and all. My sis from Cali calls me and tells me that my mom is in the hospital. She had a cardiac arrest at her dialysis unit and is currently in a coma. :cry: Her heart stopped for roughly 5 minutes until the parametics came to resuscitate her. As it currently stands, she is at the St. Agnes hospital in Fresno, CA on life support. The doctors predict she will not make it though the night. :evil: I am expected to fly to Fresno, CA for a whole week to be there for my mom and assist with her funeral. Unfortunatly, the costs of the funeral may cost me my Forester XT. :cry: I kindly ask all of you to please pray for my mom's safe journey to heaven. :cry: If not pray, please wish her a safe farewell.
you never know dude, the lord works in mysterious ways, and there is always hope and room for miracles, Il pray my hardest :cry:
Hey Fongster, my family suffered a recent tragedy such as that. my aunt suffered a heart attack while visiting california, and was pronounced dead before some maricle happened where she came back to life. she went into a coma for a few days, or a week, but she made it through. i'm sorry to hear about this event; my heart goes out to you brother.
Fong, myself and the entire MnSubaru community are here for you to help with anything you need. I know this is hard to think, but try to make the best of this time you have with your mother while you are California. You will be in our prayers.
Thank all of you very much. An update: Half an hour ago, I was just given the word that my family in California has decided to take my mom off life support. We felt that my mom left this world when her heart stopped yesterday. Now we are just letting her go by taking her off life support. No one knows how painful it is to lose the mother who brought you life and raised you with little support from anyone else until they actually lose her. I'm sorry. This is so hard to write. Thanks again from everyone.
Sorry to hear about that buddy. you're in our thoughts and prayers. if you need anything Fong, we are here for you.
hey man, beyond being in our prayers, know that we can drop what we are doing to help out. let us know if you need someone to feed your dog/goldfish, pick up your mail, turn on your heat, mow your grass, whatever. sorry about your mom.
Sorry to hear that man, be there for your family... and don't be afraid to ask any of us for help. =(
oh man this sucks, my condolences and best wishes to you man. Will be here to support you as much as i can.
hang in there buddy hope everything goes well my prayers goes out to you and your fam....give me a call if you need to talk have a safe trip and hope you come okay....
My family members has been desperately applying for loans and such to build up enough for the trip to CA and the funeral fees. I got turned down for financial reasons, but my older brother got approved for a small loan. I do not know the final costs but the typical Hmong funeral goes for $15,000+ . It's not because we want it to be luxurious, it's because she has to go through the proper ceremonial procedure. Update: After several phone calls I've received at work from my brother and dad saying that they'll be pulling the plug really soon, I come to find out that my oldest sister prevented them from doing it. She and my other little sis was with my mom the whole day. Just now, I just got great news! My little sister called saying that my mom can open her eyes and move her feet! Unfortunately, she cannot focus her eyes nor can she squeeze that hand that's holding hers. I will hear more after the doctor checks her tomorrow for any changes in her brain activites. My mom has a very strong will. She has been waiting for a long time to see me marry my GF and see her sons' and daughters' children. She wanted me to be the one to care for her when she got old. Dying now will leave her with many many wishes unfulfilled. Maybe she is waiting to see her family joined together one last time before she leaves. All I can do for now is to pray again for her well-being and her strength.
That's great to hear that your mom is able to do that now. I am very grateful that your sisters had that much faith in your mom and prevented your family from pulling the plug. Once again! hope for the best! your mom will pull through!
Fong, I really hope your mom makes it through this. If you need anything you let me know, ok? Hang in there man.
FONG! you know what? not to be an @$$ like you stated i was, my aunt went through something close to that too! my cousin calls me in the morning and starts balling, loud as hell, exclaiming that his mom has died. i couldn't help but let the tears loose as i try to show my condolences. he tells me she had a heart attack and that his dad had just called saying she has been pronounced dead. he continues crying and tells me the events leading up to her death. he then tells me that his dad is now calling him again and that he's going to call me back later. guess what? his dad called saying that his mother came back to life; her heart just started beating again... no one could explain it but that she had a strong will! i don't know why, but these are the first of two REAL miracles that's happened, and to have it happen to people i know, i also feel blessed... wow. what wonderous things this life has shown me.
Are you still at work? WTH? Now is the time to go out there and visit your mom ASAP!!! Buddha be with your mom!!!
Again, I must say THANK YOU to all of you!!! I will be leaving to Los Angeles early tomorrow morning and I will get to spend time with my mother again by the evening. I'm am hoping (on top of more hope) for the best. I sincerely hope to see her alive at the least. If I don't update for a while, let me have some time to recoup and I'll post again. May happiness be with you guys for the time I'm gone.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You were the one that introduced me to this group.
damn havent been on here much anymore...sorry to hear about that and i pray for you and your family...if you do come down here let me know so i can visit too.....
